Dahlias, a pie and a country fair

Adam, a dead ringer for his Grandpa Don Snobelen

And here we are. Adam with one blue and 3 red ribbons for his dahlias and Joni with one blue ribbon and a “Best in Show” rosette for her blackberry pie at the Saanichton Fair. And here I am with a powerful sense of déjà vu. Or, perhaps, just a joyful trip down memory lane.

Amongst the most memorable things my father told me was that his favourite place in the world was in his greenhouse surrounded by his begonias. It wasn’t just begonias. Some of the earliest pictures I’ve seen of Father are of him with his prize disbud chrysanthemums. I grew up in greenhouses filled with carnations, cyclamen and flats and flats of marigolds and other annual bedding plants bound for Victoria’s gardens.  

Don Snobelen was a man of flowers. For a while, I followed in his footsteps. I made thousands of his famous moss hanging baskets. When he stopped making the heavy, cumbersome baskets he brought me plants to augment the ones I grew in my own greenhouse.

But the flowers that bring back my fondest memories of Father are the gigantic poinsettias he brought me every Christmas. Religiously anti-Christmas, and anything that hinted of Christmas, he could not resist the glorious red “seasonal flower.” He knew what joy they brought me and my little family.

His last flower “crop” was his backyard of dahlias. A random mixed-bag of varieties. But when the flowers opened he knew every one of their faces by name. Father picked them. Mother bunched them along with cosmos, baby’s breath, snapdragons and … She displayed them on their roadside stand. Neighbours bought them. I often wondered if they knew the pleasure they gave to my aging parents.

Twice a day Mother went out to the stand to collect the quarters and dollar bills. I’m pretty sure it was the most enjoyable money my parents ever made. Her report of how good a day they had was directly hinged to the “take” in the jar.

While Father was a growing man, Mother was a cooking and baking woman. This is not to underestimate my mother’s broad-based skills and incredible intelligence, but Phyllis Snobelen was known for her delicious meals. Our table was always laden with good food and surrounded by people; family, friends and strangers. All were eager to eat. Father loved inviting people home for dinner…customers, hitchhikers, someone he met at a coffeeshop or on the street… Mother’s meals were simple and economical.

Her specialty was pies.

Phyllis Snobelen made the best pies. Berry pies. Cream pies. Apple pies. Beef pies. Turkey pies. At church meals people eyed over the pie table in search of a piece from one that was made by Auntie Phyl. Guests negotiated with each other over who got to eat the last piece of pie.

And, as you can imagine, Mother loved Father’s flowers and Father was the biggest fan of Mother pies.

After writing this far I’m a bit at a loss for words. I’m looking for something witty. Something important. Something profound. Yet many of the good things in life just are. They are simple. They aren’t about life’s lessons or what we can learn. They aren’t about improving the world. Or ourselves. They are a pie. Some dahlias. A big onion. A long scarlet runner bean. A country fair. Father received numerous ribbons at the Saanichton Fair for onions, beans, leeks, and dahlias. Many dahlias.

Joni’s Grandma Phyl never entered her pies in the fair but they would have been winners for sure

Good job Adam

“I quit” has a really bad rap these days. We value persistence, stick-with-it-ness, marriages that last until death do you part, the gold watch. And so we should. Our country was built on the Protestant work ethic. “Kids these days,” we say. “They give up at the slightest inconvenience.”

On the other hand we know Kenny Rogers is right. “You’ve got to know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away…”

So when Adam told me he was not going to run in the fall election it felt a whole lot like quitting to me. But only for the first few minutes and then Kenny Rogers kicked in.

For anyone who doesn’t know the context: Adam is my son. He’s been a politician for the past 16 years. First as a municipal councillor and then two terms as a Member of the Legislative Assembly.

We all know reasons why many politicians don’t quit when we think they should. Some elected leaders get caught up in the adulation. Even though it is likely that less than half their constituents support them the strokes from their followers becomes their cocaine. What would they do without it? Some elected leaders lose themselves in the political game. Pretty soon the social issues, the people, the environment, the things they used to care about take second place behind supporting their party and getting re-elected.

There are so many other snags that catch the hems of politicians and don’t let them go. “What else will I do?” “I only have a few years left I might as well take one more run at it.” “They need me.” “I’m the only one who can do the job.” “I can’t afford to live on a pension.”

From what I’ve seen most elected officials start out with a burning and honorable motivation—to make the world a better place. Most of them are driven by a few big ideas. They are like young people with placards—enthusiastic, idealistic, optimistic—champions for their cause(s).

Then their optimism and eagerness wanes and, as my father used to say (I never knew he was quoting Shakespeare), they become hoisted on their own petard. And when a politicians’ enthusiasm wanes they become the very thing they became a politician to change.

Other than the narcissists who never lose their zeal for the limelight and there are plenty of them in politics…there they are. Tired. Less able to ignore harsh criticism. Less interested in the issues and more interested in making themselves comfortable. And why wouldn’t they? It’s a hell of a job. And that’s when it’s time to quit.

Because politics is not the only way to change the world. It’s not always the best way. There are two or three or four sides to every table.

It didn’t surprise me when Adam said he knew it was time for him to step away from politics. When he was 14, he worked in the dish pit at the Brentwood Inn. He came home one day bright-eyed with a new realization. “I just figured out why so many people at work are grumpy and discouraged. They think they are dishwashers. I am washing dishes.”

Good job, Adam. The past 16 years have not been about the glory or the fight or the followers or the party or platform and the microphone or the adrenaline. They haven’t been about being a politician. They have been about doing the job and you will find many, many, many other ways to make the world a better place.

A brilliant evening

Silas and his grandparents

Last night I attended the opening night of the musical theatre production of Seussical at Stellys High School. Silas, my 16 year old grandson, played General Genghis Kahn Schmitz who was a Who. I watched him (and all the kids) come alive. He sung. He danced. He acted out his very strange part as if General Genghis Kahn Schmitz was a thing…a real thing.

I recommend Seussical to everyone and anyone for its brilliant treatment of childhood/teenage concerns. We are often so pedantic and teachy and tedious with kids. This production reminds us to be creative and colourful and humorous even if the issues are challenging.

The most exceptional part, of what was a brilliant evening for me, happened after the show. The cast came out from behind the curtain and mingled with the audience. Their hearts were so, so, so full. Their smiles were so, so, so genuine. Their bodies were so, so, so bold and confident.

If we are our experiences, and I believe that is all we are, then after last night those kids will never be the same. Their high school drama gig will always be a light within them.

A note of amazement!!!

Forty-five kids took part in staging the show. Twelve kids played in the orchestra (for 2 hours straight). Twenty-three kids were in the cast. Then there was the teacher support—director, choreographer, music director and conductor, set design and construction, vocal coach, program, media… Then there was community support for things I haven’t thought about yet.

Be mindful folks when you criticize schools. Be slow when you judge teenagers. Take a break from the bleak, nasty critique that is so common in our world. There is so much wonderful happening.

Happy birthday Adam

Here we go again. It’s election time in BC. 2024. The fall if we are lucky. Earlier if we aren’t.

I’m not going to lie. It’s been a long long haul for my kid. He’s been at the political table since his oldest child was born.

His first election was when he joined Central Saanich council in 2008…the first First Nations person elected in the district. Once he knew how fundamental the provincial government was to municipal governments he decided to move on to the BC Legislature.

He was the young guy when he started. It’s Adam’s birthday today. He’s 48 years old. He’s not the young person anymore…he’s mentoring the young people now.

It’s a strange thing for a mother to say that her son makes a really good politician. I think politicians are the least liked professionals in the western world. But he’s a good person. Really good. Yet he’s still well suited for the job and by that I mean he truly likes people. He’s got a sharp mind and a soft heart. He doesn’t dream about being powerful. He has always dreamed about making a difference…for the better. He isn’t interested in having a following. He’s interested in inspiring people to make their own difference.

The past few years have been tough. COVID challenged everyone. Housing. Climate. AI. Mental health. Opioids. There are no easy answers although everyone wants someone to blame.

Who would want to be a leader in such conditions?

Adam. He’s still dreaming of making a difference…for the better.

So I’ll be knocking on doors again soon.